We all get stuck in our ways, ways that we’ve been told, sold and brought into. And then, just like driving a car, we just keep on driving without really having to be conscious of the drive, we just do it in what’s known an unconscious competence level; in other words, we don’t think about it, we just do it.
We live everyday life imbrued by a few of these similar types of habits. Certain paradigms of thought and beliefs that we have assumed are now embedded in our behaviours, and yet they are not necessarily of conscious choice and awareness. Nor evolutionary in content.
We are so much more than what we do on a rinse and repeat cycle... we are powerhouse creators with endless possibilities and opportunity to live a truly enriching and purpose-filled life.
One such paradigm that needs an over hall is this old chestnut - we all have our ‘good days and bad days’.
If I had a dollar for every time a client, friend or colleague says, “this should be taught at school”, I would be quite wealthy. Learning life-skills has long been overlooked; importance is placed on ‘subjects’ that are rarely used after school life. And yet, to thrive in the world, we NEED to develop life skills - they are the essential navigation tools for meeting all that life throws at us.
We are students for life. It’s never too late to learn. There are so many amazing lessons, insights and new perspectives to be had. They can change the way we experience life and everyday events.
We need to abolish the myth that when we become adults we stop learning… as we never stop learning. We came here to evolve, and to do this we must embrace paths of learning and growth. Scott Horton sums it up perfectly:
We are all imitating someone.
For me in my younger years it was actresses, the cool kids at school and on tv. Then it become my colleagues who were successful, followed with speakers and presenters.
I would study them and then go about reproducing their qualities, style, demeanour and behaviours. When I look back it was largely how I shaped my personality. If I liked something I would add it to my repertoire.
I created a laser focus for what was liked, celebrated and revered… I was a collector - adding qualities as I would go.
And I was really good at it. But at what cost?