We all get stuck in our ways, ways that we’ve been told, sold and brought into. And then, just like driving a car, we just keep on driving without really having to be conscious of the drive, we just do it in what’s known an unconscious competence level; in other words, we don’t think about it, we just do it.
We live everyday life imbrued by a few of these similar types of habits. Certain paradigms of thought and beliefs that we have assumed are now embedded in our behaviours, and yet they are not necessarily of conscious choice and awareness. Nor evolutionary in content.
We are so much more than what we do on a rinse and repeat cycle... we are powerhouse creators with endless possibilities and opportunity to live a truly enriching and purpose-filled life.
One such paradigm that needs an over hall is this old chestnut - we all have our ‘good days and bad days’.
If I buy into this as a way of life it becomes just that, your way of life. What if instead, there aren’t any good days or bad days, rather there are growth days or as I like to frame them, evolutionary days (in place of bad days) and there are enriched days (good days) – and it’s not measured by a day, rather by moments.
I’ve certainly had a few periods in my life where I was working through some pretty big challenges; grief comes to mind. It would be so easy to label that time as a ‘shit time’, a bad few days, weeks, years… whatever language we use. And yet that period of my life was hugely challenging no question, but also hugely rewarding. I grew so much through this period of time, I learned about the cycle of life and death, the process of grief, a new depth of love, I rose above my fear of death… and my evolutionary vigour has strengthened my way of life in all ways... I feel completely enriched by this time. There was nothing ‘bad’ or ‘good’ about it.
Let’s explore with a few considerations:
As soon as we say it’s a good day or bad day we have set an expectation and forfeited flow. Our flow state is where we are in the infinite possibilities at play, the opportunity to deepen our awareness, and feel more of our true essence in the driver’s seat.
If we live according to a dogma such as this, we are then bound by the consciousness of that which we have been indoctrinated into. In other words, we don’t know there is something greater.
Beware of time as a measure - If time is a measure and we set it to a clock that is one day, we can get caught in the unconscious alignment that it’s just one day to the next, rather than a way of life.
Think of time, not as linear, rather cyclical where we get to deepen into a way of life that is truly aligned to our own rhythm and flow, keeping our growth game strong.
Everything that challenges us, teaches us. Think about it, if we are reacting (the mother of all disharmony), or suffering (the unnecessary aspect of pain), or feeling anything that is uncomfortable, unsettling or unsafe these are all indicators that we need to look within to see where we are allowing these aspects to take us out (of our flow).
When we do look within we can gain new awareness allowing the healing, which in turn releases and clears what challenges us, and as a result we get solid in ourselves (growth).
The gift of adversity is it’s life’s greatest teacher.
Imagine each time you work at this level how you would deepen into your sense of self, your worth, your shine, your greatness – igniting true lasting enrichment. Isn’t that a better way to define ‘a bad day’ as a growth day, igniting your evolutionary vigour!
You know those days that just flow even though there’s a lot going on, when your growth is strong and nothing gets to you (like it used to), where you smile all day, where people are delighted in conversation with you, where you feel in complete alignment… those are the enriched days you get to live as a result of your growth days, and evolutionary vigour.
The days you feel a skip in your step, bringing your all, your A-Game, your Greatness and Shine... that is who we are innately. Kind of puts good days and bad days in the past right?!
In summary – it’s not about good days and bad days… it’s about growth days and enriched living. The depth that is on offer for all if us to continually evolve is what it’s about. Not to get better days, rather to deeply align to all you are and all that is on offer, always.
The invitation - break the cycle of good and bad, move into growth and enriching… and see what starts to shift in your everyday life.
With love, Lara (aka Miss Behaviour) XO
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